People with ‘poor speech etiquette’ always use these 7 ‘rude’ phrases, says public speaking expert
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Not called Harvard of the PSAC for nothing….
It took me a long time to break my wife of her #1 habit. “Do you want to take out the trash?” “No, but I’ll do it anyway.”
#5 - 'It is what it is" - If I hear people use that phrase one more time, it has literally no meaning anymore except to sound smart, but you come across sounding like a total douchebag.
#9 - "well, that's obvious enough". Really? Maybe to you it is, but maybe some people need a little more convincing like a punch to the face to fully understand the finer points of the argument.
#9 - "well, that's obvious enough". Really? Maybe to you it is, but maybe some people need a little more convincing like a punch to the face to fully understand the finer points of the argument.
This cracked me up for "obvious" reasons
6. “Obviously ...”
This word subtly or not-so-subtly conveys that anyone disagreeing with the speaker is wrong. Even if you don’t realize it, using it can make you seem arrogant.What to say instead: Skip it altogether and remember that silence can be a beautiful thing. The most effective speakers know that proving your superiority or correctness is a waste of time and wins you no friends.
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Always be skeptical of anyone that starts a sentence with, “Believe me…”
Don't think the words/phrases necessarily indicate rudeness. Lots, maybe most, are simply inarticulate. In many cases "obviously" or "right" is substitute for "um" or "y'know," y'know.
Obviously.
"Obviously" is a way to assure that the recipient in the conversation agrees that this is obvious. Lawyers call this establishing the prima facie.
A pet peeve of mine is when someone is advocating a strategy to divide up and go forth by saying "we need to divide and conquer". Divide and conquer is a term used to divide the enemy. And then once dividing their forces, beating them.
I've noticed this trend of saying "100%" as agreement on a topic. I don't find anything offensive with it per se, but it is a curious trend (I know it's been around for a while but it's become rather ubiquitous) I'm intrigued by the possibilities as it opens the door for me to respond with 50% or 70% when maybe I'm not in full agreement. The latter is definitely NOT a trend, but willing to do my part to make it one!
Thus sets my teeth on edge. Don't tell me what I agree to!
Ah, I have used “agree to disagree” and haven’t until just now grasped what was wrong with it. Good job.
Or “in full transparency”. So every time you don’t qualify the statement “in full transparency” you are giving my a line crap.
When a co-worker says that to me, I say to myself, "Oh, he says that so he can break every HR rule in the book to me, but he's not really "breaking" the rules, since he's "being honest"..... (rolls eyes).
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