Is there a respectful way to let a woman (or man) that they are attractive?

mfb5053

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Comment on something she is wearing instead of her body. For example, “That’s a great shirt. May I ask where it’s from? My wife/girlfriend would love it.” Now you get to talk to her, she feels good because you gave a non-threatening compliment, and she knows you’re married so she knows at least one woman can tolerate you.
 

BobPSU92

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Comment on something she is wearing instead of her body. For example, “That’s a great shirt. May I ask where it’s from? My wife/girlfriend would love it.” Now you get to talk to her, she feels good because you gave a non-threatening compliment, and she knows you’re married so she knows at least one woman can tolerate you.

“That’s a great shirt. It would look much better on the floor.”
 

Bosco2

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Comment on something she is wearing instead of her body. For example, “That’s a great shirt. May I ask where it’s from? My wife/girlfriend would love it.” Now you get to talk to her, she feels good because you gave a non-threatening compliment, and she knows you’re married so she knows at least one woman can tolerate you.
I usually just feel the material.
 

BW Lion

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I don’t mean pick up line or cat calls, but a non creepy compliment. I was at the post office yesterday and there was a very attractive Latino woman there. She wasn’t dressed slutty or even all dolled up for a night on the town. She had nice slacks and high heels to show off her legs, a simple sleeveless blouse, and long hair in a poney tail. Photo below is for reference, not the same woman.

I kept glancing over at her, not wanting to stare in an obvious manner. In reality, Im an introvert and wouldn’t ever just start a conversation with random strangers. It got me thinking that there should be some sort of way to tell someone that what they are doing to make themselves look good was working. Anyone ever come across a situation where you were able to compliment a man or woman in a way that didn’t come off as objectification.
You didn’t ask her what type of tie to wear to your wedding?

Your shtick is getting old and weak.
 

Got GSPs

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Mentioning her looks to a woman you don’t know out of the blue is essentially hitting on her though, isn’t it?
yes, that’s my quandary… I’m wondering if there was a way to compliment without hitting on them
 

L.A.Lion

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Just try being direct with the object of your fascination.

 

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My name's Ed but you can call me darling.

That was a friend's line that lived across the hall from me at PSU and on occasion, it worked. I think the girl's blood-alcohol level was a factor.
 
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wbcbus

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Plenty of good options here, I’d maybe go with “you could be a part time model”:

 
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LionJim

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At my gym you’ll see women with their sweatshirts tied around their waists so in effect they’re wearing skirts. This is sad on two counts: I can’t see their butts, and they’re advertising that they’re sick of men staring at their butts. Be discreet and use the mirrors wisely. It’s like staring at the sun, as Jerry Seinfeld says.
The mirrors at my gym got a lot of use this morning, just saying. It was a good day.
 
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You could try....

" I think my future ex-wife looks just like you! Oh wait, never mind, you are much better looking"
 

PSUHarry

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At my gym you’ll see women with their sweatshirts tied around their waists so in effect they’re wearing skirts. This is sad on two counts: I can’t see their butts, and they’re advertising that they’re sick of men staring at their butts. Be discreet and use the mirrors wisely. It’s like staring at the sun, as Jerry Seinfeld says.
Yeah the women at the gym are there for you to look at.