A slightly OT side note to everyone here. Primarily a Thank You to all for your...

Gaimcock

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Prayers and well wishes!

Some of you may or may mot recall my last post over on the old FGF site in regards to my requested prayers for my Mom.

That was four weeks ago, and its been a steady downhill roll since day 1.

Last night, within a requested group meeting (i.e., requested by the Dr.'s and nurses), I had to give the Dr.'s and specialty nurses permission to handle things in the best way possible to keep my mother from physically suffering, and at the same time, to no longer extend these last 4 weeks of agony on her part.

My Mom has been in ICU since January 17th. She's had to have a breathing tube in the entire time, and has only been able to shake her head, and for the last week, only shake her toes.

This has been the most difficult thing I have ever been through in my 54 years and 7 months here. I've never even imagined such, never even known anyone else that had to personally go through such.

My emotions are totally stretched right now.

What I've still got to go through as far as the funeral and taking care of Mom's dogs, etc., all that lies ahead.

In closing, again I Thank You All for your previous prayers and well wishes, and yet I respectfully request such again as I struggle through this final stage.

With All Due Respect and Appreciation,

Gaim
 
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Horseshoe04

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Amazing Moms create great people. You have the heart to guide the family to what needs doing & take time to celebrate her love to your family and chat about fond memories . It’s always a bit rough before the best moments, our hearts are with you. You know she would only want great things for you and your family, they are just around the corner.

be blessed ❤️
 

GamecockMike

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I can’t imagine what you’re going through.My mom(86) made me executive over her affairs when the time comes.I just hope I don’t have to make any decisions that I have to live with wondering if I made the correct one.
 
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Fowlmoodin99

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Remember, she raised you to handle life's most difficult situations in the most appropriate way for her, you and your family.

And you are doing that. That's who you are.

She knows it!
 

PD-Cock

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Amazing Moms create great people. You have the heart to guide the family to what needs doing & take time to celebrate her love to your family and chat about fond memories . It’s always a bit rough before the best moments, our hearts are with you. You know she would only want great things for you and your family, they are just around the corner.

be blessed ❤️
As someone who's walked a similar path (no 2 are the same) these encouraging words are absolutely beautiful. At 54yrs, my Mom suffered an aneurysm & never recovered. Being a single Mom, me @32yrs being the oldest of 3, all decisions fell on my shoulders. My sisters, on their own, concluded I had final decision. Yes, of course, they were involved in every discussion/decision. Thankfully Mom's DR was not only a family friend, he was lead physician on Mom's medical team.
No one is ever prepared for these decisions. The flood of emotions overwhelms, second guessing & guilt plagues you un- mercifully. The inner pressure is unbearable.
If you ever wonder if your encouraging words have any effect, trust me, more than you'll ever know. I hurt for "Gaimcock", brings back a bunch of suppressed memories but, he has something I didn't have. ALL OF YOU!
This board has its moments but, let word out one of our own is hurting, the spirit & heart of all Gamecocks pours, no, floods support & encouraging words to whomever is in need. You guys are why I'm dang proud to be a Gamecock!
If I may add something for Gamicock, the pain & anguish you feel is your love for Mom. Mom's, all Mom's are the invincible super human presence in every child's life whether the child,(you) are 2yrs old or 99yrs old. a love that's unconditional & forever. Her love flows through your veins, she would expect you to do all you can to make her life better & your's as well. She's prepared you well. The decision you & I made, no one "deserves" this decision yet, there's a point in life, as excruciating as it is, you & I & so many others are forced to do it. The after emotion is brutal. There is peace ahead for you as there was for me & everyone who has dealt with these decisions.
I'll leave you with this & hope you find comfort in these words.
Mom may have left, not forever, only for awhile, you see, Mom has heard the sweetest words ever spoken, "Welcome, My good & faithful servant, you've done well, Welcome, good servant!
 

Gaimcock

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As someone who's walked a similar path (no 2 are the same) these encouraging words are absolutely beautiful. At 54yrs, my Mom suffered an aneurysm & never recovered. Being a single Mom, me @32yrs being the oldest of 3, all decisions fell on my shoulders. My sisters, on their own, concluded I had final decision. Yes, of course, they were involved in every discussion/decision. Thankfully Mom's DR was not only a family friend, he was lead physician on Mom's medical team.
No one is ever prepared for these decisions. The flood of emotions overwhelms, second guessing & guilt plagues you un- mercifully. The inner pressure is unbearable.
If you ever wonder if your encouraging words have any effect, trust me, more than you'll ever know. I hurt for "Gaimcock", brings back a bunch of suppressed memories but, he has something I didn't have. ALL OF YOU!
This board has its moments but, let word out one of our own is hurting, the spirit & heart of all Gamecocks pours, no, floods support & encouraging words to whomever is in need. You guys are why I'm dang proud to be a Gamecock!
If I may add something for Gamicock, the pain & anguish you feel is your love for Mom. Mom's, all Mom's are the invincible super human presence in every child's life whether the child,(you) are 2yrs old or 99yrs old. a love that's unconditional & forever. Her love flows through your veins, she would expect you to do all you can to make her life better & your's as well. She's prepared you well. The decision you & I made, no one "deserves" this decision yet, there's a point in life, as excruciating as it is, you & I & so many others are forced to do it. The after emotion is brutal. There is peace ahead for you as there was for me & everyone who has dealt with these decisions.
I'll leave you with this & hope you find comfort in these words.
Mom may have left, not forever, only for awhile, you see, Mom has heard the sweetest words ever spoken, "Welcome, My good & faithful servant, you've done well, Welcome, good servant!
PD-Cock, Thank You for that. You have No Idea how much I appreciate such!

For the record, my Mother passed away at 10:45am this morning.

Even though I received a call from the hospital at 11:27am, I wasn't made aware of her death until I arrived at the hospital at approximately 3pm this afternoon.

This entire thing has just been devastating.

Again PD, Thank You! Your words helped tremendously!!

Gaimcock
 
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