Clearly, you should sit this one out then, because "optional" means it is expected and "appropriate" -- as many have said already.
Advice on “black tie optional” wedding attire
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OMFG! I know that I should just ignore these types of comments, but you are wrong. Otional doesn't mean wear whatever you want, it means wear something close. Please educate yourself before trying to correct me.
@Got GSPs can wear one of the two of yours that don't fit. Problem solved.
Maybe I'll start a gofundme so that all of you on the board can chip in to buy me a tuxedo. I'm a big and tall guy and at Jos A Bank, the suit separates are $299. It looks like tuxedos are $429... I can't promise to look this good, but will wear a tuxedo if the McAndrew board buys me one.
If you get that suit altered have them add buttons for braces. Smoother look then suspenders.
If a hundred of you put in $5 each, or 25 of you put in $20 each...
I swear I'll buy one. I'll even wear it to a Penn State sporting event sometime!
Friends of mine go with their white tuxes for whiteouts, and it’s always a fan favorite. Here is a pic I got of them…
Okay, you cyber twisted my arm. I upped my commitment to $25.00! Let's make this happen! This could be an On3 first?
I am serious. Where's an auctioneer when you need one. Do we have 19 more? For the price of four or five latte's we can fund a Tux.
I could save a lot of money and just cut arm and leg holes in a black hefty bag...I'm in, no take backs.
Like a PSU football game in the rain!
I don’t believe anyone in this thread has asked what your wife is wearing.
It would be really bad form on your part to “out-dress” her.
I don’t even own a suit any more so I can’t really give any useful advice on what to wear. However, I have learned over the past few days that when attending a black tie event, the proper thing to do is to find the smallest man at the event and slap him in the face.
Whelp, the invitation came today and it is not black tie optional. LOL
I had already bought a silk black neck tie and a white pocket square so I’m going to rock the ”optional” look.
I had already bought a silk black neck tie and a white pocket square so I’m going to rock the ”optional” look.
If this is an April Fool’s joke I swear I am going to hunt you down and hurt you.
Well Okay now, no sweat, go to Robert Hall's, and get yourself a cool weave polyester suit.........at least that's what my parents did for me for Easter1962 LOL...
No April fools, the wedding invitations don’t have any indication of dress code. I don’t know where my wife got the whole black tie optional
The happy (?) couple must have seen this thread and changed course.
Are you sure your wife didn't care what you wore? That is an amazing coincidence on timing.
My wife cares that my clothes are clean and servicable. She doesn’t care much about fashion though and had zero idea what the optional in black tie optional meant. She would not have approved of my buying a tuxedo that I’d never wear again. She works with the bride and maybe the bride wanted black tie optional but was talked out of it.
Another RangerDan thread ends the same way as the previous ones.
And the plot thickens... even though the invitations said nothing of the attire, my wife is told that their "website" indicates black tie optional. I'm wearing my very nic and well fitting dark gray suit, black shoes/socks/belt, white shirt, black silk necktie, and white pocket square. I spring for the new tie and pocket square. I think it puts me into the "optional" neighborhood. I'm sure there will be some family member there with a polo shirt and kakhis.
Per GQ:
What You Should Wear: The same suit-and-tie rig you'd wear to an important meeting at the office this time of year. And just like your 9–5 kits, a gray or navy suit is going to be your best bet here. Pair it with a proper dress shirt (no button-down collars, please) and solid or subtle patterned tie to keep things on the dressier side. You can wear a tux if you're so inclined but, as the dress code says, it really is optional.
What You Should Wear: The same suit-and-tie rig you'd wear to an important meeting at the office this time of year. And just like your 9–5 kits, a gray or navy suit is going to be your best bet here. Pair it with a proper dress shirt (no button-down collars, please) and solid or subtle patterned tie to keep things on the dressier side. You can wear a tux if you're so inclined but, as the dress code says, it really is optional.
Yes, thank you. That was the original info I found upon my research. I was just overthinking about whether my dark grey suit was dark gray enough.
Other than the food and drinks, I hate weddings...Stop the overthinking. Just skip the wedding. Problem solved.
Skip the ceremony and show up for the reception, in shorts and a T-shirt.
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