OT: Does or did your spouse have job or stand home parent?
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Mutt would be proud that you make her stand all day.
Wife worked the first couple years we had my older daughter then came home and stayed at home maybe 8-9 years, until our younger daughter was in about 3rd grade, when someone sought her out for a job that was pretty flexible. During the pandemic she had reached the end of Netflix and with the kids back in school was bored out of her mind, so it was a good time to go back to a good situation.
It's all about the fingers and brain warp. It's been happening all day. I am 60 cut me some slack.
and that he makes her "work outside" the house instead of inside**. My wife hates yard work
Well I take that back actually. She worked as a preschool teacher for a few years when they were in Kindergarten and First Grade.
Worked from home for several years until both boys started school. Fortunately she was able to get a job in the same school. Moved to Starkville and got a job at MSU, stayed for 28 years then retired
My wife works. She’d drive us both crazy if she was at home all day.
My wife graduated college in 1976 and immediately went to work. She worked straight through until retirement in 2019. 43 years. Our boys played all sorts of sports and somehow we managed to get them to all practices and games without ever losing one of them. I traveled a lot and my wife worked long hours a lot. It wasn’t easy but somehow we made it work.
My wife works all day and then works me over at night. She makes 3-4 times the income I do so I take it.... I got mind control over her. She be like "shut the 17 up gimp." I be quiet. But when she leave, I be talking again.
Spouse works. Her 2 degrees cost like 8x more than my 1, so there was never a discussion as to whether or not she would stay home with the kids.
I had dreams of being a kept man, but thats still as far away now as 20 years ago. Im gonna keep dreaming, so she needs to keep working to make that dream come true!
I had dreams of being a kept man, but thats still as far away now as 20 years ago. Im gonna keep dreaming, so she needs to keep working to make that dream come true!
My wife works, but her degree is from a bougie private school. We paid those loans off, might as well use the damn thing.
We use to fight over who had to leave work to pick up the kids from daycare. It became a lot easier when we went fully remote over a decade or more ago. Kids driving helped too. Wife has worked at same place since 18....she's a freakin rock star.... now if I could only pull my weight we'd be doing great so she says****
My wife works. I make almost 4x what she does at this point, so it’s not really for the money. She never wanted to be a stay at home mom. She enjoys working. We both enjoy time away from each other and enjoy our time together that much more.
My wife’s OnlyFans makes a couple thousand a month. Tough part is figuring out how to tell her.
My wife’s a teacher. Took off for 7 years when kids were born then went back. I honestly have no idea how we financially survived those years and were able to still take some decent vacations and not really penny pinch. I guess what you save by not commuting to work each day, and her being home able to cook meals more often makes up some for the lost income.
Smokey’s description of “mind control” is one of the best jokes in that film. Yes, I said film.
Wife and I both worked. Never had kids. Made a good bit of money. Saved a large percentage of it. Retired early. Spending it on the token niece and nephew so someone will pick us a nice nursing home.
She stays home with two kids and apparently is about to pick up a nonpaying job to manage a nanny
Worked. Had kids. Retired. Staid home until youngest kid went to school. Then back to work.
This is where I traditionally post something slightly sarcastic, but given that the dollar is down 10% since February, and other economic conditions have changed, I’ve actually begun to look at foreign investments/currency and even considered a hedge position in bitcoin. Never say never I suppose…
A wife has to make pretty good money for it to make financial sense for her to keep working in the short term. Cost of day care and then her income is effectively taxed at your marginal rate, plus you end up spending more money on food and then there are things like house cleaning that start to make sense, plus there is all the stress and the potential of holding back both of your careers by neither one being able to give it 100%. I would be shocked if it paid off for a teacher to work during the daycare years, although there is something to be said for the retirement benefits being accrued.
That said, the lot potential for long term income growth is what makes it hard to stay home for most mothers. We practically paid for my wife to work for a few years before she advanced enough that the income more than offset the costs. Got a big advancement and then the kids started aging out of daycare and saving money by only having to pay for after school care and summer. Daycare rolling off one kid at a time plus the smaller annual raises made it feel like our income was skyrocketing over about a 6 year period. Had her income not really grown though, that would have been painful to look back at how much easier it would have been if she had stayed home.
That's not how that works. First, a middle class existence doesn't require two full time incomes. It is harder than it should be because we have made housing, education, and healthcare unnecessarily expensive through regulation (more so for the first two than the last, but still a lot on the last also), but we also have significantly elevated what is considered a middle class existence.
But the only relation to printing money is that it has made the counterproductive restrictions on housing more painful, because people are driving up housing prices counting on us to continue restricting supply. If we didn't strangle building, new supply would make housing cheaper and people would be less willing to pay prices beyond what rents can justify based on the expectation that restrictions on supply will drive excess appreciation.
First two wives stayed at home. Third wife works to help support the first two.
Children are a blessing from the Lord, if at all possible don’t send them to daycare for someone else to raise them.
Wife stayed at home with our 2. I freaked a little, knowing I had a full house with just my income. We somehow made it. God bless that woman, she was very frugal with our funds. Looking back, staying home with our babies was 100% the right choice.
I’d suggest to anyone, if childcare cost is anywhere near half of one’s income, stay home and reap the benefits and memories.
I’d suggest to anyone, if childcare cost is anywhere near half of one’s income, stay home and reap the benefits and memories.